My friends are coming in from out of town and wanted to be there for a baby shower so i got an idea that I could have it next month while they are visiting!!!
I feel like it's wrong of me to have the baby shower here at my place (there isnt anywhere else i could have it) and I dont really have anyone else to plan it either. My friends woul dhave a hard time planning it if they dont even live here anymore.
Is it considered greedy to host your own baby shower????
I'm not doing it to get things, im doing it for a get together of all my friends since they wont be around when the baby is born.
Oh I'm 28 weeks pregnant now and by then I'll be 31 weeks is that too early to have it???
thanks
Hi, I don't see anything wrong with you organizing your baby shower, why not? It's like organizing your own birthday party. Hey if nobody is doing it for you, go for it.. I think it should be fun. Congratulations for your baby and good luck on that baby shower planning.. I'm sure you'll have fun! :-)
Etiquette-wise, yes, its poor manners. I think thats a bit ridiculous, but that's just "how it works" if you're trying to be proper.
Can you have a friend or family member atleast send out the invites for you, and play host even if its at your house? Even if it were an out of town guest, she could claim the hostess duties -- greeting, helping put out the snack foods, and maybe hosting a game or two. That way its not like you are coordinating anything, even if its at your house, and no one will think you are tacky. :-)
It's considered rude to host your own shower of ANY kind.
If you want to have a get-together, then have a celebration of the baby, but don't call it a shower.
It is very common to have a shower for your second baby these days.
I had a similar problem with my first baby. I had the baby shower at my house since everybody was scattered and I was the most centrally located. Plus travel had become uncomfortable for me. My friend actually hosted though. She sent out the invites and dealt with some of the food. Being that she was coming from out of town I did help out some with picking up food though.
We accidently planned it on Super Bowl Sunday and ended up having a Super Bowl Party afterwards at the house. My husband's friends took him for his own baby shower during mine.
Some of your friends might think it is greedy to plan/host your own baby shower. You should ask them what they think. If you have a few close friends who would support the idea and some that don't, ask the supportive ones to send the invites and "host" even though you'll be making all the decisions and plans.
Hopefully these friends have the disposable income to help you buy the baby stuff you need.
I would say that 31 weeks is not too early to have a shower. My baby arrived 2 weeks early and I was very glad that we'd had the shower already and had plenty of time to put together the items I needed.
P.S. I had some pretty specific ideas about my own baby shower, so I made the plans, invitations, and asked a couple of key friends and relatives to take on hostess duties. They were very gracious and appreciative that I did most of the work for them.
It is incredibly tacky. If you want a shower, send cards that say "no gifts". Then it is welcoming the baby to be and celebrating mom instead of a gift grab.
I know of one person who held a first baby shower at her home due to the need for space (everybody else lived in apartments). However, she was not the hostess. None of us had issues with that!
no I don't think that it is wrong. With my first son my aunt was suposed to do it but 3 days before it was suposed to happen she had done nothing but find the building and send out invites, me and my mom did it all. My aunt didn't even show up for it.
no there is nothing wrong with hosting your own baby shower. 31 weeks would be a perfect time to have it.
congrats.
What is up with all the "Ms. Manners" in here? They're just waiting anxiously by the computer to give me the thumbs down. Anyway, I'm sure by traditional standards it was considered tacky to host your own shower, but look at today where the unconventional is conventional. I say go for it. Your friends even asked you to have one. If your good friends are looking forward to going to a shower, then it tells you right there that it would be okay to have one and that they aren't the type of people that will judge you afterward. The type of people who consider it rude to host your own shower are probably not the type of people you'll be inviting anyway. A new baby in this world is a blessing and however you would like to celebrate this occasion is up to you. And I don't think 31 weeks is to early to have one. I was 32 weeks when my friends threw one for me. Good Luck and have fun!
You can have a get together with your friends without having a shower. It's very bad manners to host your own baby shower - it's like you're begging for gifts.
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