In the first place, you shouldn't "request" seconds, you should gracefully acquiesce if they are pressed upon you. I think thirds is stretching it a bit, unless you're in Greece or somewhere, where if you don't stuff yourself to overflowing they feel insulted. The general rule is to stop short of completely full.
I might be flattered that you enjoy my food, but asking for thirds is frankly too much in my opinion. Especially if this is the first time you've been invited for dinner. I would think you were a pig, especially if other people haven't had enough food. You don't need to be "filled up" when eating. You should be satiated.
Moderation is the rule. Don't be there to stuff up or to eat so little that you are still hungry. The polite thing is a second helping, unless the host insists that you take more.
As long as there was enough food for everyone, I would be flattered.
I don't think they would be offended as long as you're not keeping someone else from getting full. I would take it as a compliment.
Most cultures frown on you asking for more than what you were served. Being Mexican/American myself,it's a compliment to the cook for you to eat everything on your plate,but wait till you're offered more.
Hi there again Cap. i have done some cooking for geust a little an i can tell you the nly thing that offends me is when people come and eat my food and don't get stuff. and also just leave after eating. you know don't stay for entertainment.
Depends on whether there's enough food for seconds.
Once, a relative of mine made a wonderful dinner for our family. 3 people showed up uninvited, and ate like pigs. My relative ate almost nothing till she saw that all guests were fed. One of the uninvited guests demanded the last bit of food on the serving platter be wrapped up for him. He wanted to take it to work in his lunch the next day. Was really angry when our hostess' husband refused to give it to him, & slid the food onto his wife's plate.
If you're still hungry, and it doesn't seem that there's quite enough to eat, leave it. You can stop at a fast food joint on the way home, or fix a snack at home later.
Many dinner hosts feel like you're complimenting them when you eat their food. If there is enough food left to get seconds and thirds and the dinner host gives you the green light to do so, then go ahead, but don't be so greedy that other people end up not getting what they want. Most dinner hosts mainly feel offended when you come over and don't eat anything.
Depends on the company you keep. In polite society, you eat what's put in front of you and keep your mouth shut. However, polite society is about 10% of the world. The rest of us are complimented when someone enjoys our stuff enough to ask for more. If you ask for thirds, we will secret wonder if you have a tape worm and get a little offended. We asked for you to come for dinner, not to store up for the week.
However, if this is a problem for you, and you are never full I suggest first you go get checked by a doctor for appetite issues (at my house, you won't get through one plateful, I promise) and then bring some extra food with you - like a nice dessert and some bread and maybe some snacks in your satchel or purse. It is completely acceptable to contribute to the meal - in fact, at one time it was required to take something when you went over for dinner.
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